All posts by Michele Scheve

Slice of Life Comedy Slumber Party on AFM EverythingAVL with Michele Scheve on BizRadio

Back-to-Back Awesome!

Did you MISS one of the great EverythingAVL shows this week? CANT wait for the show podcasts next week? No worries! Tomorrow on BizRadio we will be replaying this week’s shows at 4:30p and 5p with Matt Rodriguez and Jessica Tomasin!!

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Today’s EverythingAVL conversation is with Connect Beyond Festival Jessica Tomasin!

Superstar Jessica Tomasin sits in with me to talk the business of creating a festival meant to inspire and connect creative people. We talk Year two of this innovative festival, which allows the audience to interact with producers of music, video and written word, thru panels discussion and collaboration, April 5-7 in downtown Asheville. How does she get it all done?? Find out today 5:30p today on BizRadio!

Jane Kramer on EverythingAVL!

My first show on EverythingAVL is today at 5:30p with Singer-songwriter Jane Kramer!!

I’m so excited to have her on air today talking about the business of music and sharing a couple of my favorite of her songs Valley of The Bones and Wedding Vows. Valley of the Bones is the title track off her latest album and Wedding Vows are the actual vows she sang to her husband when they got married. We talk a little about first time crowd sourcing and getting started on her third album.

Jane is an amazing and truly beautiful human who is just at the start of her career. Check out more music at janekramermusic.com

My Phony Businesses

I just got my phone repaired. Back in the saddle of an Asheville-style multitasking life.

It’s hard going without a phone for several days when you have two radio shows (Slumber Party on AFM and the first EverythingAVL coming this Thursday with guest Jane Kramer!), produce a semi-regular comedy show Slice of Life Comedy at the Orange Peel and do dialysis 3-times a week…

Going without a phone means getting on a 5-year-old tower computer to check and keep up with my social media. It’s weird, and strangely familiar, a reminder back to when that was the way everything was done.

Websites in browsers, gmail yelling at me I have too many emails from the last 10 years, no sound(on this particular computer), no games, just square boxes that somehow minimize the value of the tasks. I forget multimedia and get lost on what emails to delete from 2009.

At first, when your phone’s screen is smashed beyond usability, the panic sets in. There’s so much to do, so much to promote and stay on top of, plus, how will I watch The Profit, Judge Judy or the latest Magicians?

You scramble around, borrow boyfriend’s computer on the kitchen table have him text people on your behalf.

Eventually, settle into a routine that’s not that horrible, while you figure out how to sit at the computer to do all your tasks.

Going outside to vape cbd becomes less about what you can get done, or games you can play during that time, and more about how beautiful your backyard is…if only you had something to take a picture of it so you could post it on Instagram…

Finally, by the time you have decided whether you want to fix the screen or just get a new phone..you have completely thrown off all your multi-tasking ways and have settled into the amazing quiet of your soul.

You start randomly speaking to people at bars, restaurants and grocery stores, just for the social interactions–a feeling that’s weird, yet again, strangely familiar.

Then, when you finally decide to just get your phone fixed instead of buy a new one (because you have an iPhone and you are thinking about switching to an Android because that’s just too much deal with everything going on in n your life…even tho you can’t quite remember what that all is since you are now 5days in, with no phone and the outside world is just a broken and cracked blur…)

But now I’m back! Yay! The guys at the CPR repair shop always do a good, reasonably affordable, job of putting my life, I mean phone, back together. This is like the third or fourth time i have had my phone fixed. Saved! Restored! (Do I keep doing this on purpose –every now and then to still my mind?–Thoughts for another day).

The weird feeling of holding it again. The million messages crowding the now shiny new screen. Typing this, I also remember the way my right hand cramps holding the phone–even with the knobby-thingy, the way my eyes strain–trying to type the correct little letters with my finger, the way it’s hard to type at all with one arm taking and cleaning my blood and the other arm constantly being squeezed to monitor my blood pressure–the machine ringing in my ear because I’m really bad at keeping my arms still for four-five-hours at a time…

But honestly, It doesn’t take long for me to get back into the swing of a multi-tasking Asheville life-style. I get super excited about all I have going on right now!

This Wednesday, Slumber Party on AFM should be fun because, although I will miss my cohosts Jake and Ali, I’m happy I have Matt Rodriguez(Coco) sitting in. He’s always hilarious and thoughtful– plus, I get to run the boards again which is a multitaskers playground.

On Thursday, I get to interview singer-song writer and friend Jane Kramer for my first interview on EverythingAVL on BizRadio. I want to talk about her beautiful new Album and how she manages the creative-side with the business-side of producing, booking, fundraising etc. I look forward to the hang!!

I’m also psyched to have an upcoming show in a few weeks to promote at Slice of Life Comedy on 4/4 at the OP’s Pulp Lounge! My friend, comedian Mallory Denae will be coming in from Atlanta to feature at it. She used to live and was a beloved comedian in the Asheville area. She now has an interesting take on her career and the comedy website she’s promoting, so she’ll come up a little early and guest on SP too!

I’m not TOTALLY back though. (I have only minimally texted.) I come away with my shiny new screen, happy to only slowly remember the world that waits inside.

I sat out on my porch last early evening, vaping, looking at one of the many gorgeous, calming views I’m grateful to have.

This time I take the picture because Yo i gots’ ta keep my Instagram current.

Trying to Stay Me

I’ve had more than one person ask me lately how I stay positive with all my serious health issues. I want to respond publicly because I feel like there might be others out there who would like to know, but are not wanting to ask me directly. I know there are many friends who suffer from health issues in silence, it breaks my heart when I see so much pain. I just pray and send so much beauty and light to surround those who need support.

I am not religious but I am very spiritual and believe in the power of prayer. I also believe I have lasted this long, thru many many near deaths, for a reason. My time will be up when my time is up but until then I try to live my best life.

I have an amazing, healthy, strong daughter named Zoe, who is twelve. She is a gift that made me believe in god. She was born in 2007 at 1-1/2 pounds, because I had a condition I didn’t know about at the time (besides my juvenile type one diabetes). The condition called Moya-moya causes strokes and seizures. It means “puff of smoke” in Japanese because on an MRI of the head, the vascular blood cells look like a bunch of side roads instead of a major highway, ergo a “puff of smoke.” It’s Japanese because most people who have this condition are Japanese.
I was six months pregnant when I had Zoe. Afterwards, I immediately began having seizures (and a stroke in my right eye which permanently damaged my vision). The surgery to correct Moya-moya was across the country at Stanford university hospital. The dyes they used in imaging for mapping out the transfer of large blood cells (from one side of my temple and again for a second surgery on the other side) caused damage to my kidneys. The surgery was a success but it also was not good in other ways for me. The doctors kept me for 6 weeks in California but I missed my new baby too much and flew back to Asheville. When the flight landed I had a major stroke. It was very severe. I ended up in the neurology wing of Mission hospital, which at the time was on the 6th floor, (same as the NICU my now almost 4-pound-daughter was in). For over a month they wheeled me down to see her everyday.
When my daughter and I got out of Mission, (her a healthy 7 pounds!) I was left with severe damage from the stroke. I had to relearn the alphabet and several multiplication tables.
Eventually, I got better after several years, but my marriage was over. I moved back in with my mother to a large house in East Asheville. I wasn’t planning on staying long as I tried to get my life back together. That is when I was diagnosed with stage 5 kidney disease. I had to start dialysis.
It’s been a long road since. I am still at my mother’s house, waiting for a kidney. In the 4years on dialysis I have been literally falling apart. I had an ear infection that couldn’t heal and made my eardrum burst, leaving me deaf in one ear and needing surgery to stop the damage. I had rips in my intestines from low blood pressure from dialysis, causing me to have major (life-saving) surgery that also took me off the kidney/pancreas list and put me on just the kidney list due to the location of the intestinal surgery. I was just diagnosed last month with a blockage in my heart, requiring me to have light surgery to place a stint this March.
Soooo, how have I stayed myself? How have I remained mostly positive? I don’t pretend. I try to always stay real. I fall apart in private sometimes but I am always real about what’s going on with me. Here are some of the things that make me get up three days a week for dialysis–makes me ignore to ravaged woman in the mirror, make me try to be a loving and present mother, makes me stay strong thru years of falling apart:
Faith-I believe in a plan bigger than myself. I believe in my place in this plan. It does not come from teaching or examples or any religion, it instead comes from the way god moves thru me when I paint, or create anything at all really. It’s the messages in my dreams that speak to a higher power. It’s the times when I’ve prayed to the universe and I know they were heard and answered.
Love-My love for my daughter is a love I have never felt before her. My need to help her in this life is so strong. I decided long ago that if I put her first, like a beacon in the night, I would never go wrong. And I have never gone wrong. My love for her and my family and friends keep me strong. I have amazingly thru this have found a mate who adores me, looks thru my multiple scars and sees the woman I am and was. He truly sees me beyond my health issues. He supports me in my endeavors, loves me truly in every way.
Thankfulness-I am so thankful for the smallest things that go right. I am so thankful for the friends that love and support me as if nothing has ever changed. I am so thankful for the community of Asheville who have donated money for my medical expenses as I wait for a kidney transplant. I am so thankful for every touch of kindness I see in the world. I’m thankful that people a waking up and seeing the things we need to change to create a better world.
Pets-I have 4 indoor cats, 1dog, 1feral outdoor cat, 1wild but loving raccoon, two wild red foxes, one black bear and a bunch of possums and other wildlife around me. Their beauty and love heals me everyday.
Work-I’m on disability. It’s automatic when you have stage 5 kidney disease. I still “work.” Honestly, it’s just playing at doing stuff I love. Have a radio show on AFM called Slumber Party, wed 4-6p. It has been on since 2010. I love AFM 103.3fm, I love Slumber Party with my radio friends and interview friends. It makes me happy. I also do Slice of Life Comedy at The Orange Peel. I’ve also done it since 2010. When I got sick I had comic friends help me run the shows for a while. When I got a bit better I started doing comedy open mic shows exclusively at Pulp Lounge. Sometimes I do Afterparties there for big comics that play upstairs. It’s fun. I love the Orange Peel, I love the staff and comics. I love the responsibility of running a show. I only do them on average twice a month. They are on Thursdays which is a dialysis day, but I pull myself together, thankful I have a reason to pull myself together. I am about to launch a new show on BizRadio, 1350am(also soon to be 96.1 fm). It’s called “Everything AVL” and I will be sitting down for a half hour twice a week (Tues &Thur 5:30-6p) to talk to my Asheville friends who are in entertainment and have a business. They will also be podcasts on Spotify, ITunes , Google play and more. I will prerecord the shows so I’m not doing them live on my dialysis days. Im so excited to get started on this new endeavor!
Finally, I would like to say, when things get hard, let your loved ones know. Don’t hide your pain but don’t dwell on it either. Look for things, no matter how small or big, to be thankful for. Look for ways to have hope in your life for better days. Believe in your unique purpose in this world. Know you are loved. I love you.